As I sit here posting this I am wracked by guilt having just witnessed a spectacle and acting as nothing more than a silent spectator.
I had stopped by the local grocery store to pick some staples and was waiting to pay when my attention and that of every other person there was diverted to a woman shouting obscenities at the one of the store’s staff members.
Apparently there had been a mixup with ringing up her order and the woman resorted to name calling, using incredibly abusive language at the poor guy who eventually stared shaking as he attempted to remedy the situation .
A fact that she seemed to relish and kept pointing out “why are you shaking ?” In addition to ” are you gay”? ” call your lesbian manager and let me deal with her.”
I was torn between wanting to go and confront her and wanting to keep out of it.
I kept looking around hoping that a few of the tall apparently strong male customers would intervene on behalf of the petrified staff member but to my disappointment everyone of them averted their gaze made their purchases and left.
As I left the store I was so angry I was shaking both the at ill treatment of the staff member and my own indecisiveness to intervene and speak up .
Why did i hesitate ? for that matter why did everyone else? What if we were in that position would we want someone to step in and come to our aid? What gives people the right to treat other human beings with so little respect? Does having money 💰dehumanize them? Take away their sense of morality? empathy?
If a person is unfortunate enough to be working for you does that mean they have no dignity , self respect?
I feel ashamed 😔 both at myself and at humanity if these are the values we intend to pass on to our children of oppressing those weaker than us and not being able to stand up when we witness injustice 😢😔
We live in an ageist society . It’s been said before and I am saying it again. Maybe forever 21 came up with their slogan on a whim but today it’s the widespread norm.
There was a time when the formula youth = success was limited to the Fashion and entertainment industry. The ordinary, everyday people took aging as a natural phenomenon and went about their daily lives and jobs unaffected.
Neither was older than 20 something need not apply was a box that needed to be ticked on a job application .
However in the recent years this obsession with youth has trickled down and become mainstream in our society and culture. Every where you go , you are bombarded with the latest in anti aging innovations , ranging from high tech skin care, makeup, supplements , gadgets , surgical procedures and the last I checked anti aging water and even drinkable collagen !😕
It doesn’t matter where in the world you live or which ethnicity you belong to. Once you cross the 20 something threshold you are guilty of committing a grievous sin.
Owing to circumstances beyond my control it was well into my late twenties that I had the opportunity to start crossing items off my dated and yellowing bucket list.
Little did I know I was ineligible for over half the things on my list since I no longer fit the 15-20 age bracket anymore.
I remember signing up for dancing lessons and considering penciling in the 25-30 age box myself in exasperation.
For me at 16, finishing homework and passing exams was the limit to my ambitious thinking. What I learned that day while attempting to blend in with the other 18 year old somethings , was that life goals today are not only planned out but close to being achieved when you hit the 20 something age mark.
As I stood there , I realized that I had completely missed “The young and The successful” boat ages ago. I remembered the time when our mothers would lie about their ages out of sheer vanity and getting older meant becoming wiser , smarter and more graceful.
As I crossed out the 18-20 age box and handed over the form grudgingly I realized lying about my age was going to be more out of necessity than of vanity.